Wonderful and Wearying

Our month of celebrations concluded on Monday at approximately 6:45PM when our daughter, Rebekah, walked across the stage of the Blue Hills Bank Pavilion and received her Boston Latin School High School diploma.  Exactly a month earlier we were attending the Baccalaureate service for our son, Jonathan, as he prepared to graduate from Gordon College.  The following day was Jonny’s commencement.  Between these two graduations we, as a family, experienced, at times vicariously, the final day of classes, Senior Prom, a combined graduation party, “senior sign-out day”, and an awards celebration.  This month has included some of the most wonderful days and some of the most wearying days I have experienced as a parent.BLS

The past weeks have been wonderful.  My wife and I beamed with pride as we heard our child’s name declared and watched them receive their diplomas, gratified in knowing that his and her hard work have been recognized and rewarded.  We all rejoiced as they were surrounded by family and friends celebrating their accomplishments. While we, as parents, had little to do with their success, we are proud of what our kids have become.

The past weeks have also been wearying.  As I watched them taking steps across their respective daises, I was overcome with dread as I contemplated their next steps.  Will, and where will, Jonathan find a permanent job?   Is Rebekah ready to head off to Washington and engage a collegiate culture?   Have I sufficiently prepared my ‘adult’ children for what comes next in their lives?  While I, as a parent, now have no control of the course of their lives, I am apprehensive about what my kids will become.

My problem is that I want to micromanage my children, despite the fact that I am ill prepared to do so.   Jonathan and Rebekah will have to manage their own lives.  My only hope is that they will remember what they have heard in their formative years.  I hope that they can dwell in the very center of God’s will.

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God – this is your true and proper worship.  Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.  Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.  Romans 12:1-2 (NIV)

If I could offer one final word of pastoral and parental wisdom for all those who are concluding one chapter of life and beginning to write another: trust the pattern of Romans 12.  Offer yourself (wholly and completely) to God, allow the Spirit to shape you instead of adopting the prevailing culture, and then, after doing this, trust that you will be able to discern God’s good, pleasing and perfect will for your life.   So many want to know God’s will for the future before they surrender their present to the Lord; that knowledge seems to be reserved for those who are first willing to follow God wherever He leads.  Know that He will lead you where you need to go.

I am so proud of all my children, those that have graduated and those who will remain under our roof for a few more years.

Photo courtesy of the Boston Globe, June 13, 2016  https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2016/06/13/walsh-commends-boston-latin-graduates-for-fostering-dialogue-race/ACvuJolyaLLGOcmZoV2ZdO/story.html

 

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  1. Mike — wonderful, au point message as usual. You deserve a vacation, a period of relaxation, a hammock in Tahiti with a cocoanut drink in hand. See you soon. Best always to you and your family. Frank Date: Fri, 17 Jun 2016 13:26:23 +0000To: fj10182003pt@hotmail.comFrom: comment-reply@wordpress.comSubject: [New post] Wonderful and Wearying

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